I personally always thought to myself it was, even tho I've been doing this kind of thing without knowing since I was a child. I knew, of course, that I had strong feelings towards some people, but I also knew it wasn't something like I would (romantically) like those people.
It starts slow, maybe it's the fact that we have something in common or just the fact that I think they are really attractive. I always had a hard time "falling in love" with people, I just don't like people enough for them to be ok, I know that because I feel bad giving something I don't really have. My only ex-boyfriend, we were together 4 years, in which all of them he presented as a girl, I felt so confused by the fact that I was dating a boy all that time, when he came out of the closet, some weeks passed and I didn't care, we were broken up already so I shouldn't care about my feelings, nonetheless, I was happy he could finally be himself. I wonder, all the time, how bad I was as a partner. We didn't talk much, the last 2 years in our relationship we barely did anything together, not that I can remember.
I remember being "in love", but I was a very nervous person, I never broke the rules, and being with him was me, breaking a really BIG rule, I liked him enough for me to try and stay, even tho that had really bad consequences on me and my homophobic family.
He's an example, I started liking him because we had something in common, and in general he was really cute to me, but it ended.
Then I had this classmate, he didn't talk much, he was very short and had a bowl cut and was, to be honest, kind of ugly. I also knew he shared interests, but I didn't want to talk to him, because deep inside I knew he was kind of weird. And something happened, my friend told him I was interested in him, but I was lying, I wasn't interested in him in THAT way, my admiration was only a fantasy, but we started talking and, well, it was very disaopointing, he was very very weird, not just 2 weeks talking and he wanted me to say "I love you" to him! Then, I realized I couldn't keep on going, I told him I didn't like him.
He then stalked me for a year, I blocked at least 6 or 7 accounts of his so he doesn't intrude on my stuff, he's been very persistent to this day. I don't want to repeat that experience.
Those were some of the occassions were I fixated on real people, on that list can also be my best friend from when I was a child and some other friends I had in school.
The internet has made it very easy to find information on people, it has surprised me multiple times. Just now as I'm writing this, I searched the full name of the person I'm currently (not romantically) interested in, and I could find the city where he lives, the careers he has study/is studying, his id number month and year of birth, and some other things. It's fucked up because it was all of it in the first link! I didn't have to do anything, but when I search my legal name I don't even show, what has he done? LOL
Oh, he's my latest erm, interest? He's my classmate, I actually noticed him a month after vacations were done, and I was like "he's my classmate????" He was.
I don't want to describe him, I will surely forget about this with the years, but the main reason I was attracted to him was because he looks like a celebrity crush of mine, Zubin Sedghi the former bassist and vocalist of my latest favorite band Tally Hall :D HE'S AN OLD MAN, AND THIS PERSON, GUY, LOOKS LIKE HIM, A LOT, specially the beard. The only thing I will mention, he's 6 years older than me, and that was enough to turn this into a fail-ending mission, I will never ever talk to him, ever. Well, that was mostly it, it's the first time in years I do something like this over a person I know irl, I usually do this kind of "investigations" to influencers of even famous people, it's easy and kind of boring, but I don't do it enough to be considered a hobby lol.
I could keep talking about this, but I don't want to extend this a lot. I've been struggling mentally and this was pretty much a way to destress, it was working, but enough is enough, I should find a better thing to do than this.
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